It's been so long that you're wondering if you still know how to do it? Every married couple has been in there. You start off strong as a newlywed; maybe you've had sex every day (or multiple times a day). Then, somewhere along the line, the honeymoon comes to an end, real-life takes over, and you can't remember the last time you did the deed. The first step in correcting this problem is to recognize exactly what's going on in your sex life. So, here are the top five things that keep you from doing:
Most people today have non-stop schedules that have them jetting off to work, school, activities, such as going to the gym and running errands and finally trying to spend time with loved ones. Sleep is an afterthought. Truly, it’s a rat race, and you probably have no idea how to get off the wheel.
Solution: Find even 15 minutes per day to nap or simply readjust your schedule – by eliminating unnecessary tasks or coming home about 15 minutes earlier – to recharge your batteries. If all else fails, have sex even if you’re sleepy. Sometimes, you start out just going through the motions, and then it’s on like Donkey Kong, so just go with it.
If you have children, you know they've got a way to get your time alone. Sure, they bring great joy and rewards you've never imagined before. But they jump into your bed when they're having nightmares, or when you're cuddling, they come and ask for milk. Their very presence makes it impossible to have sex spontaneously in the middle of the day, as you might have done before your children.
Solution: Of course, you love your children and enjoy spending time with them. But get a babysitter once in a while, for the sake of your marriage. If a family member can watch them in his or her place, that's even better. You can get the house on your own, have a real date night, and let the rest fall into place.